Thukra ke mera pyaar: IFS officer shares hack to 'move on' after breakup

IFS officer Himanshu Tyagi, known for sharing personal anecdotes and life advice on X, recently reflected on his IIT days and offered insights on moving on after a difficult breakup. In a post, he recounted a friend's struggle with a breakup during their time at IIT and shared valuable lessons learned from that experience.

IIT days. A friend had a bad breakup. Couldn't move on.

Each day, he vowed to cut contact but kept calling her. He wasted 3 years until he found a new partner.

Why? All day, he was on his phone, digging up memories.

How to move on in life? A Thread... pic.twitter.com/L7J6v4T4UT

— Himanshu Tyagi (@Himanshutyg_ifs) April 9, 2024

He initially advised, “Make a firm decision. Begin by committing to move forward from your past. With complete clarity.”

1. Make up your mind.

First, resolve to move on from your past. In full clarity.

— Himanshu Tyagi (@Himanshutyg_ifs) April 9, 2024

Following that, he recommended, "Eliminate all triggers. Discard anything that might bring back memories of your past. For instance, gifts, books, photos, and so on. Life has so much to offer. Why invest emotions in something insignificant?"

2. Cut off all cues.

Remove anything that may remind you of your past. E.g. gifts, books, photos etc.

So many good things in life. Why waste emotions on something irrelevant?

— Himanshu Tyagi (@Himanshutyg_ifs) April 9, 2024

Next, he emphasized, "Focus on self-improvement. Instead of dwelling on the past, dedicate your efforts to self-growth. Devote time to enhance your well-being and skills. Gradually, memories will fade."

3. Invest in yourself.

You should invest heavily in yourself rather than trying to forget your past.

Invest your time in your health, and skills. Memories would slowly get erased.

— Himanshu Tyagi (@Himanshutyg_ifs) April 9, 2024

Finally, he added, "Set timely prompts. Establish reminders to stay on course. Document your journey. Enlist a friend to guide you if you veer off track." 

4. Timely reminders.

Put some reminders in place to keep you on track.

Write down your story. Ask a friend to point you out when you stray.

— Himanshu Tyagi (@Himanshutyg_ifs) April 9, 2024

 His advice resonated with many, as evidenced by the post's significant engagement, including over 5,400 views and numerous likes.

This isn't the first time Tyagi has shared personal experiences and motivational tips on social media. Previously, he discussed his own setback of failing the IIT-JEE exam and how he channelled that disappointment into determination, eventually earning admission to IIT Roorkee. His posts often offer practical advice on dealing with challenges and making positive changes in life, garnering widespread attention and appreciation on social media platforms.